Forty More Days, Day 12–A Day Off

I wonder if Jesus took days off. Never mind, I’m sure he did. He sometimes retreated to quiet places to get away from all the hubbub and press of people around him. I have decided to emulate him and take a day off from writing an original post. Technically, one doesn’t count Sundays in the 40 days of Lent, so I have a little wiggle room and could actually choose to not post at all. But I have the trove of past Forty Days posts I can mine for this evening, and so I shall.

But before I do that, I have a confession to make. I had to laugh at myself this morning. I woke not feeling well–a vague feeling of nausea followed me through my morning routine. I contemplated not exercising, but was able to ignore my stomach and get in 25 minutes on the treadmill. Here is the confession: as I began to feel nauseous, and remembering what happened the last time I started feeling sick, I immediately prayed, “Please God, don’t let me be sick again.” It was then that I laughed at myself. After all, I had previously stated that during the hours that I actually was sick, I didn’t pray at all. I accepted my fate, I surrendered. I was feeling very noble. Then this morning, the minute I was threatened with a repeat of the previous sickness, I immediately went to praying. So much for my nobility. I believe God has a sense of humor, for which I am exceedingly grateful.

So for tonight’s post, I asked Siri to pick a number between one and 25. It picked 19. And so I had four options from day 19. And so I selected a 2016 post in my “The Next Forty Days” blog. As I read through it, I realized it was just what I needed to read. I didn’t even read the other three. Perhaps I’ll save them for another time. I hope you find it as useful as I did.
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The Next Forty Days, Day 19–Find Me Unafraid

Beyond this place of wrath and tears
Looms but the Horror of the shade,
And yet the menace of the years
Finds and shall find me unafraid.
from “Invictus,” by William Ernest Henly

I’ve recently been thinking a bit about fear, and the things that hold us back from experiencing as full and rich of life as possible. I am amazed that when I take the time to explore my hesitation about doing something, it is very often based in some totally irrational fear. Over the last few years my relationship with and to fear has shifted in some fairly significant ways.

When I experienced the series of losses that occurred in 2011, I realized that I had been slammed by a heavy dose of painful realities. I had neither the time nor luxury to wallow in some sustained pity party. I had to figure out how I was going to live and try to continue supporting my two dependents as best I could without a consistent, steady source of income. I spent a few weeks alternating between being scared silly about what I was going to do to survive and depressed and emotionally overwhelmed by all the loss I experienced. And buried not too deeply underneath it all was the fear that I would “never” recover and lead any type of “normal” life again.

There’s a line in an old country song that says, “When you hit rock bottom, you’ve got two ways to go: straight up or sideways.” So I sat for a little while at rock bottom before I slowly began taking intentional steps that pulled me out of it. One of the lifelines by which I pulled myself up was expressing gratitude. Intentionally focusing on the things in my life for which I was grateful allowed me to build a foundation from which I could begin the healing process and get myself back together. Focusing on the many blessings in my life help me see very clearly that, in spite of the things I had suffered, I experienced many, many more good and positive things in my life than I had the negative. And while losing my father, separating from my significant other, being “let go” from my job, and losing my home in the span of a few months was difficult, I still considered myself very fortunate indeed.

I began to gain a new perspective on fear. It wasn’t that I now lived completely unafraid; like most people I still experience occasional fear that something bad might happen to me again. But when I examine the things that used to really make me nervous–like how a former boss was going to respond to something they didn’t like–I realize that their impact on me was minimal. Unless the boss was going to do bodily harm to one of my children or put someone I loved in mortal danger, there was little they could do to me that would do more than rattle me a little. I have not faced death, but I’d dealt with a lot of difficult things. They simply don’t have the same impact they used to. I really resonate with something Eleanor Roosevelt said about fear,

“You gain strength, courage, and confidence by every experience in which you really stop to look fear in the face. You are able to say to yourself, ‘I lived through this horror. I can take the next thing that comes along.’”

I have learned to “take the next thing that comes along.” It is not pleasant, and in fact can be quite difficult or painful, but increasingly I am looking fear in the face and moving forward in spite of it. And if I should hit rock bottom again, at least I’ll have seen what it looks like and can once again find my way out.

As I think about the various themes of these 40 days, I wonder if Jesus ever felt fear. I mean, before his arrest and torture and crucifixion, which would have frightened the bejeebers out of anyone, I wonder if he ever experienced any of the less dramatic fears that we regular folk sometimes stumble over. How did he deal with it if he felt it? Who comforted him. It is likely that he too had to find his way out of his traumas in similar fashion as we do now. At least I like to think that he did.

I have gained strength and wisdom from some of the difficult times I’ve faced. I don’t want to act like I’ve got everything together now, that nothing can frighten me. I have by no means arrived at such a high level of grace. But I have learned to get back up when I am knocked down, and I definitely learned what I was made of. I like to think I could face “the next thing” with some measure of equanimity. While I’m not anxious to flex that particular muscle any time soon, I believe if I need to I can, that the “menace of the years, finds and shall find me unafraid. I rest in a belief that at the end of the day, all truly shall be well.

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